I have two years to plan my wedding and I am not sure what funds I have yet, or what to ask for. So I was hoping I could get an average of what weddings usually cost. We dont have a lot of money to start with, but I still want a great wedding!
Weddings cost precisely as much as you’re willing to spend on them. Since you’ve got two years, figure out a savings plan for the first year. Ask your guy to do the same. Figure out what you can put aside each month, add up the figures and start off with the assumption that that’s your wedding budget. If your parents or his offer financial asisstance, that’s great, but don’t budget for it until it’s offered.
About a year out from the big day, that’s when you book your wedding and reception site(s) and start paying for things. In the meantime, really consider what is and isn’t important to you about your wedding. Comparison shop. Figure out what you can make yourself or do without.
For instance, it’s fairly easy to make a simple bouquet or boutinierre, and that can save you money on a florist.
Favors are nice, but not required and often left behind by guests who have no clue what to do with them after the party. You can save a few dollars by simply not giving them out.
The word is that the ‘average’ wedding in the United States costs nearly thirty thousand dollars to put on. But keep in mind that that statistic comes from people who responded to a questionnaire in a bridal magazine, and the women who a) bought the magazine and b) answered the poll are statistically more likely to have that sort of money than the women who didn’t buy the magazine or didn’t fill out the form. Also, location will have a major effect on your budget needs. It’s a lot cheaper to throw a wedding in rural Indiana than it is in New York City, for instance.
In short, don’t worry about anyone’s budget but the one you have available. Don’t worry about what people tell you you ‘need’ for the day to be perfect. Legally, all you need is two consenting adults, a licensed officiant, a license and anywhere from one to three witnesses, depending on where you live. Everything else is either tradition, religion, or fashion…and two of those are entirely negotiable, while the third is a matter of personal conscience and priorities.
The best weddings aren’t about how much money was spent on them, but the love everyone sees between the bride and groom. I’ve seen it at weddings held in large churches and fancy hotels, and I’ve seen it at simple celebrations in parks or someone’s backyard. No matter how elaborate or how simple, the thing that makes them great is the love and happiness of the bridal couple.
Concentrate on letting your personalities and your love shine on your wedding day, and I guarantee it will be unforgettable whether you spend $100 or $100,000 on it.
Best of luck and all joy to you and your intended. I hope you have a long and happy marriage.