I am looking for an idea as to how much planning and having a wedding would cost. If anyone also might have any website ideas on how to go about starting to plan a wedding that would also be very helpful.

Thanks so much

We spent about $7000 for 100 guests. It was at a country club, evening dinner (buffet style), fully hosted bar, professional DJ, pianist for the ceremony. You can save a lot if you do a lot yourself, or enlist the help of people you know.

I did my own flowers and centerpieces, made my own invitations (from a kit), got a GREAT deal on a dress, negotiated photography and cake fees, etc.

It can be done! Looking back, the entertainment/DJ was the best money spent. He kept the crowd going while we were detained for photographs and socializing. He played a variety of music for EVERYone, and worked in some of our requested faves, too. He did trivia about the bride & groom while people were in the buffet line. We had to kick people out at midnight.

Also – if you’re serving a meal, you can get away with a smaller cake. We had 3 times as much cake as we needed because everyone was full from dinner. We also made the bottom layer the "grooms" layer – it was chocolate, while the other layers were bavarian creme something…

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  1. PRINCESSASABIA

    2010 May 03 1
  2. seweccentric

    2010 May 03 2

    We spent about $7000 for 100 guests. It was at a country club, evening dinner (buffet style), fully hosted bar, professional DJ, pianist for the ceremony. You can save a lot if you do a lot yourself, or enlist the help of people you know.

    I did my own flowers and centerpieces, made my own invitations (from a kit), got a GREAT deal on a dress, negotiated photography and cake fees, etc.

    It can be done! Looking back, the entertainment/DJ was the best money spent. He kept the crowd going while we were detained for photographs and socializing. He played a variety of music for EVERYone, and worked in some of our requested faves, too. He did trivia about the bride & groom while people were in the buffet line. We had to kick people out at midnight.

    Also – if you’re serving a meal, you can get away with a smaller cake. We had 3 times as much cake as we needed because everyone was full from dinner. We also made the bottom layer the "grooms" layer – it was chocolate, while the other layers were bavarian creme something…
    References :
    My wedding last year (in Texas).

  3. raynrock23

    2010 May 04 3

    It depends on the area of the country. I think the Northeast is most expensive, for instance. My advice – save your money by keeping it small. It’s only one day and it’s ridiculously expensive. Use the money on a house down payment, nicer honeymoon, or just save it.
    References :

  4. TINA N

    2010 May 04 4

    Hello, Congratulations on the most exciting part of being in a a relationship! I have been a bridesmaid 19 times and I have been in weddings literally on shoe string budgets of 3 to 5 thousand dollars and I have been in weddings that have had extremely pricey budgets ranging from 50 to 75 thousand dollars. I would say that they were all tastefully done taking into consideration what was important to the couple. You would be surprised how many family and friends will donate time and money for your special day. So just because you think you cant afford something ask around friends of friends sometimes do wonders. And may your marriage be truly happy and wonderful and everything you dreamed it will be.
    References :

  5. July Wedding Girl

    2010 May 04 5

    $$$ Depends on what you want to do.

    Staples has some beautiful invitations and a 100 invitations can cost as little as $60.00

    The biggest expense is the meal and liquor. If you want to keep the cost down and still have a meal, try having few choices, like one meat dish with a variety of salads. Liquor – we are having wine only.

    The more you do yourself the more you will save.

    Pick a couple of items that are important to you, then look for do-it yourself solutions for the others. Ask for help with your wedding projects, your mother, his mother, and your friends will feel like part of the planning process.

    Good luck,

    Mine is going to be under $4000, for 125 people including a supper!
    References :

  6. sp1nn

    2010 May 04 6

    The average int he U.S. is $20,000. However, with alot of cuts to unnessary items like favors, tons of fresh flowers, & engraved invitations, you could cut that price tag down alot. My wedding only cost me $4,000, but I was on an extremely strict budget. I made my own scrapbook, I had a friend photgraphy my wedding for free, I made a simple centerpiece out of floating candle, flowers, and a glass bowl, I made all of my bridesmaids bouquets as well as mine. Basically, I spent alot of time at places like Hobby Lobby, Garden Ridge, & Michaels. But as far as wedding websites I think http://www.theknot.com is by far the best. You can register for a free account and they help you organize your guest list, your budget, & seating plan. After your married you can check out their sister site http://www.thenest.com.
    References :

  7. Rich F

    2010 May 04 7

    You need to approach it the other way..figure out how much you can afford to spend, and then plan accordingly. Basic costs are rings, a dress, a place to hold the ceremony, food (and drinks) for your guests, and someone to conduct the marriage. Some overlooked expenses you might not think of are dry cleaning the dress if it has to be altered at all (my wife spent $300 on alterations ans it cost $110 to have the dress dry-cleaned), Tuxedos for the Groom and ringbearer (mine and my sons cost almost $300 to rent), flowers, dresses for a flowergirl if you have one, a cake (we spent $250 on a cake, and that was cheap)…
    To give you an idea, we had a small wedding, only about 20 guests (mostly immediate family a very few close friends), we held in in my family’s house (it happens to be 200+ years old, so we could get away with calling it a "historic site") and we tried to cut out as many expenses as we could, and we still spent over $10,000 total.
    As far as a theme, we got married in December (9th of 2006), and we went with a winter theme..we decorated in Ice blue and silver, and had alot of candlelight. Find a theme you like and go with it. Good luck.
    References :
    Married December 9th, 2006.

  8. Dawn W

    2010 May 04 8

    $20K or more.
    http://www.weddingchannel.com will help you do a sample budget.
    References :
    http://www.weddingchannel.com

  9. Fanatical

    2010 May 04 9

    My parents are spending around 3k. 60 people, seated dinner, salad, entree 2 sides, appetizers, harpist, beautiful location just outside of Washington Dc and a wedding outdoors in the garden of the restaurant. Very cozy and quaint. it can be done for a small amount of money. You just need a lot of patience and searching.
    References :

  10. heather

    2010 May 04 10

    Really depends on area of the country…Costs are vastly different. Mine, in the northeast, was almost $40,000 total. It can be done for less though. theknot.com was helpful.
    References :

  11. Jarod R

    2010 May 04 11

    Well I know that it will cost you several thousand. The final cost will depend on a few things such as what you want, & where you want it. There alot of things to take into consideration when planning one. Here are some that you should consider.

    1. Where is it going to be held?
    2. What day are you going to have the reception?
    3. Where is the rehersal dinner going to be?
    4. What do you want served at the reception?
    5. Who are you going to invite to the reception?
    6. What are the invitations going to look like.
    7. Who are you going to invite to the wedding?
    8. What time is the reception going to be?
    9. What time is the wedding going to be?
    10. What music do you want played at the reception?
    11. How much do you think that the food will cost?
    12. How many kinds of food are there going to be?
    13. Who do you want to "Cater" the event? (food prep people)
    14. What do you want your dress to look like?
    15. How much is your dress going to cost?
    16. What type of building do you want the wedding to take place in?

    That is just a list of things that I can think of. Hope it helps.

    Have a great wedding. I know you’ll look wonderful 😉
    References :
    I’ve been to several weddings & receptions.


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I am looking for an idea as to how much planning and having a wedding would cost. If anyone also might have any website ideas on how to go about starting to plan a wedding that would also be very helpful.

Thanks so much

We spent about $7000 for 100 guests. It was at a country club, evening dinner (buffet style), fully hosted bar, professional DJ, pianist for the ceremony. You can save a lot if you do a lot yourself, or enlist the help of people you know.

I did my own flowers and centerpieces, made my own invitations (from a kit), got a GREAT deal on a dress, negotiated photography and cake fees, etc.

It can be done! Looking back, the entertainment/DJ was the best money spent. He kept the crowd going while we were detained for photographs and socializing. He played a variety of music for EVERYone, and worked in some of our requested faves, too. He did trivia about the bride & groom while people were in the buffet line. We had to kick people out at midnight.

Also – if you’re serving a meal, you can get away with a smaller cake. We had 3 times as much cake as we needed because everyone was full from dinner. We also made the bottom layer the "grooms" layer – it was chocolate, while the other layers were bavarian creme something…

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11 Responses

  1. PRINCESSASABIA

    2010 May 03 1
  2. seweccentric

    2010 May 03 2

    We spent about $7000 for 100 guests. It was at a country club, evening dinner (buffet style), fully hosted bar, professional DJ, pianist for the ceremony. You can save a lot if you do a lot yourself, or enlist the help of people you know.

    I did my own flowers and centerpieces, made my own invitations (from a kit), got a GREAT deal on a dress, negotiated photography and cake fees, etc.

    It can be done! Looking back, the entertainment/DJ was the best money spent. He kept the crowd going while we were detained for photographs and socializing. He played a variety of music for EVERYone, and worked in some of our requested faves, too. He did trivia about the bride & groom while people were in the buffet line. We had to kick people out at midnight.

    Also – if you’re serving a meal, you can get away with a smaller cake. We had 3 times as much cake as we needed because everyone was full from dinner. We also made the bottom layer the "grooms" layer – it was chocolate, while the other layers were bavarian creme something…
    References :
    My wedding last year (in Texas).

  3. raynrock23

    2010 May 04 3

    It depends on the area of the country. I think the Northeast is most expensive, for instance. My advice – save your money by keeping it small. It’s only one day and it’s ridiculously expensive. Use the money on a house down payment, nicer honeymoon, or just save it.
    References :

  4. TINA N

    2010 May 04 4

    Hello, Congratulations on the most exciting part of being in a a relationship! I have been a bridesmaid 19 times and I have been in weddings literally on shoe string budgets of 3 to 5 thousand dollars and I have been in weddings that have had extremely pricey budgets ranging from 50 to 75 thousand dollars. I would say that they were all tastefully done taking into consideration what was important to the couple. You would be surprised how many family and friends will donate time and money for your special day. So just because you think you cant afford something ask around friends of friends sometimes do wonders. And may your marriage be truly happy and wonderful and everything you dreamed it will be.
    References :

  5. July Wedding Girl

    2010 May 04 5

    $$$ Depends on what you want to do.

    Staples has some beautiful invitations and a 100 invitations can cost as little as $60.00

    The biggest expense is the meal and liquor. If you want to keep the cost down and still have a meal, try having few choices, like one meat dish with a variety of salads. Liquor – we are having wine only.

    The more you do yourself the more you will save.

    Pick a couple of items that are important to you, then look for do-it yourself solutions for the others. Ask for help with your wedding projects, your mother, his mother, and your friends will feel like part of the planning process.

    Good luck,

    Mine is going to be under $4000, for 125 people including a supper!
    References :

  6. sp1nn

    2010 May 04 6

    The average int he U.S. is $20,000. However, with alot of cuts to unnessary items like favors, tons of fresh flowers, & engraved invitations, you could cut that price tag down alot. My wedding only cost me $4,000, but I was on an extremely strict budget. I made my own scrapbook, I had a friend photgraphy my wedding for free, I made a simple centerpiece out of floating candle, flowers, and a glass bowl, I made all of my bridesmaids bouquets as well as mine. Basically, I spent alot of time at places like Hobby Lobby, Garden Ridge, & Michaels. But as far as wedding websites I think http://www.theknot.com is by far the best. You can register for a free account and they help you organize your guest list, your budget, & seating plan. After your married you can check out their sister site http://www.thenest.com.
    References :

  7. Rich F

    2010 May 04 7

    You need to approach it the other way..figure out how much you can afford to spend, and then plan accordingly. Basic costs are rings, a dress, a place to hold the ceremony, food (and drinks) for your guests, and someone to conduct the marriage. Some overlooked expenses you might not think of are dry cleaning the dress if it has to be altered at all (my wife spent $300 on alterations ans it cost $110 to have the dress dry-cleaned), Tuxedos for the Groom and ringbearer (mine and my sons cost almost $300 to rent), flowers, dresses for a flowergirl if you have one, a cake (we spent $250 on a cake, and that was cheap)…
    To give you an idea, we had a small wedding, only about 20 guests (mostly immediate family a very few close friends), we held in in my family’s house (it happens to be 200+ years old, so we could get away with calling it a "historic site") and we tried to cut out as many expenses as we could, and we still spent over $10,000 total.
    As far as a theme, we got married in December (9th of 2006), and we went with a winter theme..we decorated in Ice blue and silver, and had alot of candlelight. Find a theme you like and go with it. Good luck.
    References :
    Married December 9th, 2006.

  8. Dawn W

    2010 May 04 8

    $20K or more.
    http://www.weddingchannel.com will help you do a sample budget.
    References :
    http://www.weddingchannel.com

  9. Fanatical

    2010 May 04 9

    My parents are spending around 3k. 60 people, seated dinner, salad, entree 2 sides, appetizers, harpist, beautiful location just outside of Washington Dc and a wedding outdoors in the garden of the restaurant. Very cozy and quaint. it can be done for a small amount of money. You just need a lot of patience and searching.
    References :

  10. heather

    2010 May 04 10

    Really depends on area of the country…Costs are vastly different. Mine, in the northeast, was almost $40,000 total. It can be done for less though. theknot.com was helpful.
    References :

  11. Jarod R

    2010 May 04 11

    Well I know that it will cost you several thousand. The final cost will depend on a few things such as what you want, & where you want it. There alot of things to take into consideration when planning one. Here are some that you should consider.

    1. Where is it going to be held?
    2. What day are you going to have the reception?
    3. Where is the rehersal dinner going to be?
    4. What do you want served at the reception?
    5. Who are you going to invite to the reception?
    6. What are the invitations going to look like.
    7. Who are you going to invite to the wedding?
    8. What time is the reception going to be?
    9. What time is the wedding going to be?
    10. What music do you want played at the reception?
    11. How much do you think that the food will cost?
    12. How many kinds of food are there going to be?
    13. Who do you want to "Cater" the event? (food prep people)
    14. What do you want your dress to look like?
    15. How much is your dress going to cost?
    16. What type of building do you want the wedding to take place in?

    That is just a list of things that I can think of. Hope it helps.

    Have a great wedding. I know you’ll look wonderful 😉
    References :
    I’ve been to several weddings & receptions.


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